Plaster on that smile!


Some days are harder than others. Today has been hard - and it’s only 11.00am! It’s one of those days where you look round and see all the flaws in your house (the ones that nobody else can see) and everywhere just look untidy and needs a good clean (including Little C). But Little C wants me to play and I’m SO not in the mood today. 

It’s weird how my mood seems to drag everyone else’s mood down too. Even my bonsai tree looks brown and drab today. I hate how I’m always expected to be happy and smiling and eager to play (and serve food and change dirty nappies - all with a smile). If I’m quiet or my voice isn’t as chirpy, Little C will constantly ask ‘what’s wrong with your face?’ Can you imagine being asked that every 5 minutes when you’re in a crap mood?! I want to reply to him ‘THIS IS JUST MY FACE!’ 

I know he doesn’t mean it, he’s trying to understand why I’m not my usual self (he actually thinks it’s because I lost at Shapes and Beats earlier - if only it was that simple). His constant noises are hard to listen to today, it feels like he’s doing them even more and louder just to annoy me (he isn’t though). 

I wish we could get out of the house for a bit but nope, we’re stuck here. Little C doesn’t want to go out, even for a little walk. He says his ‘legs aren’t working properly today’.

So that’s me this morning. Hopefully the  day will get better. I’ll plaster on a smile and try hard not to snap at the kids. But really I’m tired, my back hurts and I’d give anything just to be allowed one day to be grumpy in peace. 




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